Much of the paperwork is done (at least at this point). Just a lot of waiting for this and that. In the mean time we need to start gathering pictures to add to our dossier, begin parent training classes and begin our Homestudy.
In one of the first parent training classes it is discussed how love is an action not a feeling. There may not be warm fuzzy feelings initially and therefore love will be an action. This is not difficult for me. I can love the unloved. But I can see how this could be hard for many. Look at failed marriages - broken families if love is not an action and The warm fuzzy feeling is not there and regular contact is not worked on love is lost. Hence love is work and if we only choose to love those we have feelings for then we fail to love so many.
This is much like God's love and sacrifice for us. Love was an Action - he did not just tell us - he showed us.
As parents this is easy to understand as our children often misbehave or become defiant going through various stages of life but showing that child love through those times will help them to carry through and grow up to be loving compassionate people. Same will go true for the adopted child coming from a difficult place - love will become an action. Showing love will be helping the child overcome difficult times through understanding and teaching.
I look forward to loving. This is not a difficult task for me but i know for some can be. But when you make love an action and make an effort to show them love what a difference - but not easy.
I have been shown this. Regardless, that I am a grown adult my mother still makes an effort to call all of her children on the phone to catch up to say "hello" or "how are you?". This is an act of showing love. It is easy to forget about loved ones and not have time - however when we make the effort - oh what a difference.
Make Love An Action .....
xoxox Traci
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